One of the things I’ve noticed in reflecting on our practise of hospitality is that there are a couple of different ways of understanding and practising hospitality. Some folks practise hospitality by focussing all attention on the guest and offering an extravegant experience of food, comfort and entertainment. Other folks practise hospitality by treating the guest as a regular member of the household, encouraging them to come inside through the backyard instead of knocking at the front door. Guests will know they can offer to make tea and coffee themselves and see who else wants one too.
I think our understanding of hospitality is heavily influenced by our experiences growing up. We might base our own practice of hospitality on what we learned growing up, or we might react against what we learned.
Did you grow up with one of these understandings of hospitality? What is your preference now?